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All Of The Things That Did Not Happen In 2018

Wiping the dust off of this blog and realizing this will be the first (and likely only) post of 2018. I’m okay with it though. My motto of the year has been “DBT of South Jersey, we strive for imperfection!”-and isn’t that the truth?!

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The Dialectics of Mom Guilt!

In case you didn't know, I'm a psychologist who specializes in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). My favorite part about DBT is that these skills are helpful for everyone, and I use them every day. Let's be real, as a brand new mom I need them now more than ever! 

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Flying With DBT: Mindfulness as a Practical Skill of Life

Often we don't think that mindfulness is a practical skill. Many people still believe that mindfulness must look like a more formal meditation practice, but I've found that everyday mindfulness makes a difference in big and not-so-big ways. 

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Riding the Wave of all the Guilty Feels

In the past I let my feelings of guilt, when justified or unjustified, control my thoughts and behaviors.  If I didn't attend every event that I was invited to, I felt guilty.  If I said something that hurt someone's feelings without any intention to hurt them, I felt guilty.  If I wanted to go to the movies with my friends and my family was going out to dinner, I felt guilty.  If I said I would complete a task for someone and I let them down, I felt guilty.

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Politics and Mindfulness: Reflections on a Forgotten Skill Set

I don’t know about you but my head space over these last couple of months has been dominated by all things politics. At work with clients and coworkers, at home with friends and family members, even at yoga waiting for class to begin. It seems like every corner I turn, it’s waiting for me, like the (hopefully less permanent but equally unsettling) Grim Reaper.

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Permission to Rest

An ongoing struggle of mine is giving myself permission to rest without guilt. Doing nothing strangely involves much work and it feels easy to see why I'm driven to constantly be moving. Earlier this week in graduate group, the topic of non-doing came up. It seems that a judgement would surface when the skill to practice in the situation was to simply observe. Even as I write this blog, I notice judgements of the simplicity of the teaching.

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